Wednesday, September 30, 2009

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www.willowtreetoys.com

www.novanatural.com

www.bellalunatoys.com

www.treehollowtoys.com

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Wednesday, September 23, 2009

Baby stuff

Yes I feel the Urge to get baby things just as any mother does LOL.

But that Baby stuff adds up, and this is my third child. I plan to buy from thrift stores for clothing...Why do I need to Buy Brand new clothing that My baby will out grow in two weeks? I see no point in it!
Its SUCH a Waste!!!...I dont need a Crib because we co-sleep (Its not going to change this time either LOL)....and dont need Bottles because we Breastfeed, and We have a Carseat...
What more does a baby need? Diapers I guess...I will Buy new Cloth Diapers...as my daughters are falling apart but I have all the Covers I need and what I dont have I can sew up myself with the scraps that are tossed about my house.

Toys? Have those already...If its a Boy (as I have two daughters) He will get wooden toy cars when he is older, and a wooden toy train set as well...but he wont need that for awhile LOL...
We have Blocks, Dolls, a wooden bowling set, and even a pull along Crocodile that chomps as its pulled...I dont see how a baby needs much else LOL

I am Pleased with this choice, It seems so many people place such value you on buying All new for their babies when really I go to Goodwill and some of the things I buys still have Tags!...Thats still new! It just means I wasnt the one stupid enough to spend 20$ on baby jamas...Someone else did and Then Gave the to me for 1$ (Well Basically LOL!!!!)

I am going to have the Cheapest dressed baby in town...But I bet now one will have a Clue LOL (Unless they read this....of course)

Sunday, September 20, 2009

Brave has nothing to do with it

When hearing the news that I had my last baby at home and am planning to have this one at home as well, the first response from most people is, "You're so brave."

This has to be one of the most irritating things that people say to homebirthers. The implication is that birth is dangerous and that we are willing to take on a tremendous risk to do it anywhere but a hospital. It negates the research and planning that we've done to come to this decision. It makes the choice about balls, not brains. After all, homebirth is "dangerous." Hospital birth is "safe." Therefor, it must be bravado alone that would lead a woman to choosing such an option. Right?

In 2003, over 20% of women had their labors induced, with a rate closer to 40% in many hospitals, while that rate should not exceed 10% (and has remained at 10% in most industrialized nations). Inductions are approximately 5 times more likely among planned hospital births than planned homebirths. An 1999 American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology "Green Journal" review of 7000 inductions found that 3 out of 4 of the inductions were not medically necessary. Inductions are performed unnecessarily for estimated size of the baby (too large or too small), going past the estimated due date, amniotic fluid levels that are low but not critically low (correctable in nearly all cases by rehydration of the mother), rupture of membranes without immediate start of labor, the mother being dilated/effaced but not in active labor, or scheduling reasons on the part of the mother or care provider. Approximately 40-50% of inductions fail (depending on the induction method used and the mother's Bishop score), and most failed inductions end in cesarean section. Inductions increase labor pain and length, and create, among other problems, an increased risk of fetal distress, uterine rupture, and cesarean section.

But homebirth is "dangerous." Hospital birth is "safe."

Over 30% of women in the US have cesarean sections, while overwhelming research has led the World Health Organization to set an ideal standard rate of cesarean sections at 10-12%, with 15% being the rate where more harm is being done instead of good. Cesareans are performed at a similar rate across all risk groups, low to high. The cesarean rate for planned births at home or in an independent birthing center is approximately 4%. Cesarean sections increase the likelihood of maternal death by as much as 4 times, and have other immediate and long-term heath risks for mothers that include, but are not limited to, infection, bowel or bladder perforation, hysterectomy, future infertility, and increased risk of uterine rupture for future pregnancies. Risks for the baby include respiratory distress, fetal injury, prematurity (if result of schedule section or failed induction), and breastfeeding difficulties. Four of the greatest causes for the increase in cesarean section are overuse of interventions during labor, concern for malpractice/liability on the part of care providers, failed labor inductions, and "failure to progress" (labor not progressing fast enough or regularly enough for care providers).

But homebirth is "dangerous" and hospital birth is "safe."

The ACOG and AMA have both come out against homebirthing, calling it a dangerous trend and referring to it as a "fashionable, trendy, [...] the latest cause célèbre," and they paint a horrible picture of complications arising in low-risk pregnancies with no warning that cannot be handled anywhere but the hospital. Despite that, the most thorough study ever done on homebirth safety, Kenneth C Johnson and Betty-Anne Daviss's Outcomes of planned home births with certified professional midwives: large prospective study in North America, BMJ 2005;330:1416 (18 June), found that the outcomes of planned homebirths for low risk mothers were the same as the outcomes of planned hospital births for low risk mothers, with a significantly lower incident of interventions in the homebirth group. The Lewis Mehl Study of home and hospital births, which matched couples in each group for age, parity, education, race, and pregnancy/birth risk factors, found the hospital group had 9 times the rate of episiotomies and tearing, 3 times the cesarean rate, 6 times the fetal distress, 2 times the use of oxytocin for induction/augmentation, 9 times the use of analgesia/anesthesia, 5 times the rate of maternal blood pressure increase, 3 times the rate of maternal hemorrhage, 4 times the rate of infection, 20 times the rate of forceps use, and 30 times teh rate of birth injuries (including skull fractures and nerve damage). Breastfeeding success rates are higher and postpartum depression rates are lower for planned homebirths.

But homebirth is "dangerous" and hospital birth is "safe."

The United States spends more per pregnancy/birth than any other country, the vast majority of women in the US give birth in hospitals, and yet the US's maternal death rate is the worst among 28 industrialized nations and the neonatal mortality rate is the second worst. The Netherlands, where 36% of babies are born at home, has lower maternal and neonatal mortality rates than the US. Denmark, where all women have access to the option for a safe and legal home birth, has one of the lowest maternal and neonatal mortality rates.

But homebirth is "dangerous," hospital birth is "safe," and Brutus is an honorable man.

I didn't choose a homebirth because I am brave. Bravery has little to do with it. If anything, I believe women who choose to give birth in US hospitals are the brave ones, because knowing what I know about our technocratic obstetrical system, I can't imagine voluntarily choosing an obstetrician and a hospital for anything but absolute medical necessity. My decision to homebirth wasn't made in a void, but based upon years of research. I wonder how much research the average woman puts into her hospital birth? Considering how many times I've heard someone say "I'm glad I was in the hospital because..." and then given as her reason a non-emergent situation (such as fetal size or nuchal cords), I'd say not that much.

Call me stubborn, because I wasn't willing to accept out of hand the culturally held belief that hospitals are safer. Call me an idealist, because I believe that birth can be a positive, safe, and empowering experience for child and mother. Call me a nonconformist, because I choose to birth at home in defiance of a powerful technocratic system. Call me outspoken, because I can't keep my mouth shut when I hear about yet another iatrogenic birth calamity. Call me a "birth nazi," because I believe it's the right and responsibility of every woman to educate herself about birth and take ownership of her birth experience.

But brave? Don't call me brave. "Brave" has nothing to do with it.


Morgan A. McLaughlin McFarland

Saturday, September 19, 2009

Fruit leather

Apple Leather

1 1/2 lbs tart apples, peeled, cored and cut up
1/4 cup water

2 cups prepared apple puree
1-4 tbsp Honey (More Honey then this will make them STICKY!!!)
1/4 tsp ground cinnamon (optional)

Cook apples in water until barely tender. Drain. Run though blender to smooth.

Place puree in bowl. Add honey and cinnamon to taste. Stir well. Line 10x15" jelly roll pan with wax paper, using 2 sheets crosswise fashion so as to have plenty of overhang. Spread puree mixture over wax paper. Dry in 150°'F (65°'c) oven overnight or for 8-10 hrs during the day, until dry and leathery. It iwll be stiff enough to pull off wax paper. May be turned to dry other side a bit. It should be pliable and stretch a bit as it is torn. Roll up with plastic to store in airtight container to freeze.

12x18"' pan may be used for 2 1/2 cups puree

Food for thought.

Food.
Its vital to our being...Yet so many people are STARVING from the inside out...

Children are especially at risk, as they can show signs of being "Picky" or "Finicky"....
They may eat and gain weight yet they are lacking in many vital health areas...we may want to Jump to vitamins, while this maybe a somewhat effective band-aid it is Not the answer.

We need to start on a path of healthy eating...of having whole foods...Foods nature has provided...or as some people call them "Slow Foods".

It maybe hard to Change the Diet of a "Picky" eater...But Parents need to remember that THEY hold the Key to their child's food patterns.....They have chose what food to introduce and they can be the ones to CHANGE what they eat.

It may not be easy but their are good ways to start...

Replace a Daily "Junk snack" (Like Processed Crackers or Gummy Fruits) with a Healthy whole food snack...Like an Apple, Banana, Organic Yogurt or even fruit leather (Dried fruit puree...Offered at health food stores and VARY easy to make)

Replace a "mock juice" with an 100% Fruit Juice.

Have Your child Help prepare a meal....its surprising what they will eat when they got to cook it!

Visit a Farm and talk about the Foods they eat....Its a fin trip for the whole family!


Again, You don't have to make the change overnight....actually it would be better in baby steps....But in the end your child's eating habits will likely transform!

The CHILD Disorder by Jan Hunt and Naomi Aldort

After close observation of their own children, with a combined age of 61 years, observations of many other children in the U.S., Canada, Mexico, Israel, Greece, Italy, Swiss, France, Holland, Belgium, England, Scotland, and the Bahamas, and numerous reports throughout recorded history, the authors have determined that a widely-distributed behavioral disorder has somehow been overlooked by psychiatrists. They have labeled this disorder "CHILD"1. Just like "ADD", "ADHD", and "Asperger's Syndrome", CHILD is not based on any medical evidence or test whatsoever, but it should nonetheless be a useful diagnosis for mental health professionals, school administrators, and parents.

Symptoms

Stage 1:

  • cries when left alone at night
  • cries when put into car seat
  • cries when being diapered or dressed
  • cries when hurt
  • naps too long (or) does not nap long enough
  • potty-training does not go smoothly
  • poor hand-eye coordination
  • fussy when teething
  • clingy during times of family stress
  • dribbling

Stage 2:

  • tantrums when frustrated
  • incoherent babbling
  • climbs onto dangerous areas
  • enters roads without looking
  • fussy when hungry
  • insists on favorite cup at meals
  • refuses all vegetables
  • clingy following a parent's return from a trip
  • clingy following a move
  • clingy following birth of sibling
  • clumsiness with frequent dropping and spilling
  • continues unwanted behavior even when told to stop
  • punishment doesn't work

Stage 3:

  • sudden unexpected movements
  • irrational fears that don't respond to logic
  • funny noises, sudden shrieks, inappropriate giggling
  • talks to dolls and stuffed animals
  • may have imaginary playmates
  • fidgets when bored; unable to sit still
  • runs and climbs; always on the go
  • insists on wearing favorite clothing
  • does not come promptly when called
  • tells silly jokes
  • embarrasses parents in public
  • interrupts when parent is on the telephone
  • grumpy when tired
  • angry when losing a game
  • dawdles when hurried
  • fights with siblings
  • insists on own way of doing things
  • punishment doesn't work

Stage 4:

  • prefers playing to doing chores
  • stammers when nervous
  • doesn't listen to reason
  • selectively forgetful
  • talks excessively (or) does not talk enough
  • ignores direct questions
  • sudden, energetic behavior
  • self-centered, egocentric behavior
  • walks away when parent lectures
  • sullen when mistrusted
  • forgets to say "please" and "thank you" despite repeated reminders
  • grumpy when ill
  • resists structured teaching; prefers own way of learning
  • punishment doesn't work

Etiology

The causes of this disorder are not yet clear, but the authors suspect that the primary cause is premature birth, i.e. birth prior to age 20. This is probably inevitable, as a 20-year gestation would be stressful for the human female.

Prevention

This disorder is not preventable; it appears to be universal among low-age populations. However, there are several approaches that can minimize behavioral difficulties:

  • cosleeping
  • carrying in the first years
  • breastfeeding with child-led weaning
  • eye contact
  • gentle touch and hugs
  • respectful listening
  • undivided attention
  • validation of feelings
  • empathy
  • trust
  • avoidance of punishment
  • natural learning

Prognosis

The prognosis is excellent, as this disorder subsides over time, provided the preventative measures listed above are taken. Drugs are not recommended.


For more Please Visit www.naturalchild.org

OBGYN Quotes



"I'd section all women if I could. It's the 'way to go'."

"The vagina is not made for having babies anymore than the penis is. I'm speaking as the head of the ob/gyn department here. I want to come across as the voice of reason in this."

"If I could give all men vasectomies, I would. No wives should have to go through birth more than twice, at the most."

"We shave 'em, we prep 'em, we hook 'em up to the IV and administer sedation. We deliver the baby, it goes to the nursery and the mother goes to her room. There's no room for niceties around here."

"I put women on a pedestal. I open doors for them. I have a lot of respect for them. In the hospital I have to see them in certain degrading positions, see certain degrading parts of their bodies. So I try to do all I can to maintain their dignity. I heard that one of these younger doctors lets women be naked on his examining table. Can you imagine that? Why would any woman want to do that? I had gowns specially made that conceal all of a woman's body except the part I absolutely have to see in order to preserve their dignity. Once I saw a woman in labor - another doctor's patient - she was crawling around on all fours, stark naked, panting like a puppy. Can you imagine? What kind of respect for women does that show?"
-from Birth as an American Rite of Passage by Robbie Davis-Floyd

"I just want my couples to have as good a hospital experience as possible, so I make sure they understand everything that's going to happen to them so they won't be shocked or scared. If I talked too much about alternatives, I would just set them up with expectations that are not going to get fulfilled. Besides, I like my job and I don't want to lose it."

When n Compleat Mother editor Jody McLaughlin suggested to Alan R. Lindenmann, M.D. that women should give birth in an upright position so as to make use of gravity, he responded by saying "Gravity doesn't affect all women."

Orgasmic Birth

Pregnant in America

Natural Learning

Nature is the best place to learn!

In the natural world kids are free to explore and Free to open their minds and learn. Its really a Beautiful sight to watch a child exploring a forest or river bed learning about the Plants, animals, and the ways they work together.

Watching a Caterpillar eating a leaf, a deer Grazing on a forest path...their eyes fill with amazement and wonder.

Children need that time in nature...they need to see the natural world at its best...Its not hard to find places to go, a State park is the BEST place to start...Many of them have streams or even a lake you can explore.

Bring a Bag and Gather clam shells (PLEASE LEAVE THE LEAVE CLAMS!!!), or make a scrap book of leaves and put the names of the trees they belong with them.

The possibilities are endless...and dont think that because you went once you have seen it all...There is Always something to see that was missed before.

Friday, September 18, 2009

Learning to Mother.

Hello, My Name is Heather.
I am the Proud Mother of a Four year old, and a 20 Month old (Both Bright little Girls).....and I am Pregnant with baby #3 and Due feb. 23rd 2010.

We are an AP family trying to Raise our children to be respectful and Loving towards the earth, And all the creatures in it....
We Believe in treating our children with the Same Kindness we would treat other adults, and helping them learn instead of forcing them to "Behave".

Well thats just a bit about our family and a bit about this Blog really.